Let’s skip to present day. My husband is not a big drinker, but on December 17th we hosted naughty or nice bingo game where an amazing mobile bartender was a vender. She had this Hennessy punch mixture that he fell in love with, and he talked about it ever since. Every once in a while, he would mention that one of these days he wanted to get a bottle to sip on while chilling on a weekend night, watching a good 90’s movie. So, I did what I’ve always done, I listened. I listened to what he was saying, and I listened to what I was feeling, and I got us matching bottles to have a chill weekend. Outside of him telling me, I knew from the look on his face that what he saw in that top drawer made his entire week of tiring work worth it all.
This story is not about buying my husband things, it’s about paying attention to the small things that help keep our marriage bonded, healthy and strong. It is so easy to talk about the surface things, those things that get us through the day. When we take the time to see and feel a little deeper, capture those tiniest of details, that’s when we fill up the intimacy bank! What are the things that you do to add to your intimacy bank?