I like to think of marriage as an intricate dance that requires balance to execute. When you think about balance, you may visualize something that, even when it’s a little shaky, it is steady enough to remain upright. And that, in our minds, would constitute a success! As long as it doesn’t topple over, it’s all good right? In terms of an object or building, sure, this is what we may all consider to be a success, it didn’t fall. Now think about this in terms of a marriage or relationship, would it be enough that the marriage didn’t “fall” or should other components be considered?
In present day we are seeing a great deal of marriages that were “not falling”, abruptly topple or come to an end. With this knowledge, our earlier theory would appear to be incorrect. It is not enough that something is simply standing upright and not falling, one would need to know how things are balanced in order to remain upright ongoing. Taking a deeper look into the balance structure would help to understand things a bit more. In marriage, there has to be an equal “give and take” series of actions within it in order to remain standing firm. That is not to say that sometimes there will be an unequal sequence, but for the majority, you want an equal series of actions.