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Advent Presence:
The Flame for Friday, December 2, 2022
This has been a week of presence. Last week I wrote about that theme, as you may recall, and this past Sunday I preached about it as well. Coming out of sabbatical and back into step with my St. Aidan’s family, I have been seeking to bring practices of presence with me. This week that took the form of many conversations, most with individuals, some with small groups. I’m eager to hear how you are, what’s on your heart right now, what you are carrying and what is carrying you in this Advent season. 
We often hear that Advent is about waiting, and that’s true. Relatedly, but also a bit differently, it is about listening. The Advent arrival that the season moves toward – the birth of Jesus the Christ, in whom God the Word was made flesh and dwelt among us – turns in a sense of the listening of Mary. The angel Gabriel comes and speaks to her—announces this wondrous thing to which she lends her agency, her yes. She exercises that agency first through listening, hearing the wonder announced to her. This week I hear that call to listening as a distinctly Advent practice of presence.
This week we also unpaused our Advent Adult Formation series with a conversation on the Song of Mary, the canticle that begins “My soul magnifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior” (Luke 1:46-55). On Wednesday evening at 7 PM, following evening prayer on Zoom, a handful of us listened to Mary’s fiercely joyous praise of God. We’ll be singing it before long in the form of the Canticle of the Turning. On Wednesday, I shared a passage from the Roman Catholic Feminist theologian Elizabeth Johnson’s book Surely Our Sister: A Theology of Mary in the Communion of Saints as a further way to frame this profound practice of presence. She writes:
“Mary’s song refuses to be relegated to the past. Entering into its cadences, the community at prayer identifies with Mary of Nazareth bearing the Messiah, pregnant with hope. We enter into her faith stance and relate to God along the lines of her witness. Time becomes permeable. Her passionate joy, protest, and hope flow through the centuries and become ours. Rather than praising her, we join with her in praising God and the surprising divine compassion poured out on a world run amok. In the process, our relationship to God takes on an intimate, liberating character which energizes action on behalf of justice.” Elisabeth Johnson, Truly Our Sister: A Theology of Mary in the Communion of Saints (New York, London: Continuum, 2009), 324
At the close of this week, as we head into a very busy weekend with the vestry’s Mutual Ministry Review, Good News Gardening, Sunday Worship, Natalie Lloyd’s Celebration of Life, and Music on the Hill, the call to practice presence abounds. Tonight, I hear its call through Mary’s song. May we indeed join with her in praising the God of liberation through whom compassion flows and hope abounds.

Hybrid In-Person/Zoom Worship Continues This Week
This week our worship will continue to be hybrid, with both in person and Zoom platforms available. We encourage you to connect to with worship in whatever way is comfortable and feels safest for you.

Updated Mask Policy:  After carefully considering survey input from parish members, as well as City and diocesan guidance and the current practices of other churches and public venues, the Regathering Committee has concluded that it is time to revise our mask policy.  Beginning Sunday, November 20, if you are fully vaccinated and are comfortable removing your mask, you may do so during church services.  We will respect the preference of anyone who feels safer by remaining masked.  In accordance with diocesan guidance, the celebrant will still be masked while consecrating and distributing the elements for the Eucharist.  We will also maintain a well-ventilated sanctuary by opening doors and windows, so remember to dress warmly as winter approaches.  We acknowledge that COVID is likely to be with us in some form for the foreseeable future, and we will be monitoring public health advisories.  Our mask policy be modified again as is appropriate.  Please pray for the health and safety of all our members and friends as we continue to navigate this challenging time.

Locking Up Reminder
Please check that both front doors are locked when leaving the church.  The red door and the outside black door closest to the Wajnert Room use the same key now and both are being used.  It's important to always make sure that both are locked when leaving.

Support for Barry Koron

Barry Koron's family has set up a Go Fund Me (linked below) to help support the care he needs that is not covered by insurance. If you are able to lend your support to Barry and family in this way, they would very much appreciate it. Thank you.
Barry’s  GoFundMe,

Martin de Porres 2022

Thanks to the generosity of our congregation, clergy and friends, Lee and I delivered 42 fleece blankets and 159 pairs of socks to Martin de Porres House of Hospitality. There were also holiday dog biscuits, just because :)

Christmas Giving at Saint Aidan’s
Please join in our Christmas giving at St. Aidan’s.  This year we have two options (listed in order of when the gifts are due:)
Urban Angels Toy Drive for children in shelter in the Tenderloin neighborhood:
Our neighbor Urban Angels ( is sponsoring a toy drive for children in shelter throughout the city.  They have asked for our help in collecting gifts for children 6-12 years of age (an age group they find it difficult to identify donors for.)  We have committed to providing 35 gender neutral gifts for these age groupings:
  • 15 gifts for children 6-8 years old
  • 10 gifts for children 9-10 years old
  • 10 gifts for children 11-12 years old.
Value of each gift should be in the $25-45 range.  Suggested items:  board games, legos, books, art supplies.  Please bring gifts, unwrapped, to St. Aidan’s by December 4th.  Deacon Margaret ( will have a clipboard and list at the church for sign-ups; please contact her with any questions.  If you would like to make a financial contribution, Margaret can purchase gifts on your behalf – just let her know.
SafeHouse Gift Card Drive
SafeHouse, an organization that empowers and supports women who are experiencing housing instability and sexual exploitation or trafficking ( is well known to St. Aidan’s.  We are again collecting gift cards for the women of SafeHouse.  We have committed to 10 gift cards at the $60.00 level. Any extra money will be used to purchase cards for women who come to the drop in center and are in need. Susan Spencer will be collecting your donations, and she will purchase the gift cards with funds raised.  Please contact Susan with any questions –  Donations need to be to Susan by Sunday December 18.

Congregant Reyna Greenfield needs a lady to help her after surgery (scheduled for December 8) when she gets home to help her get out of bed and prepare something to eat. NO medical help needed. She needs someone who is vaccinated against COVID as she is. Please call her in the evenings anytime after 6pm starting next week Her phone number is 916-473-3594.

Bishop Search Listening Sessions:  The Search and Transition Committee invites all members of the Diocese of California to share in a conversation about our hopes for the next bishop.  We want to hear what you believe the skills, qualities, and gifts our next bishop will have that will lead us forward in the next ten to fifteen years.  All the data will be compiled and compared to discern more clearly where the Holy Spirit is leading us in this critical work.  If you were not able to attend the San Francisco session, you can attend any of the other Listening Sessions scheduled around the diocese.  For more information, go to Diocesan Listening Sessions Announced | The Episcopal Diocese of California Bishop Search (
Good News Gardens – next date: December 3, 12:30 AM
On November 19th Lantana was planted in memory of Natalie Lloyd, and a plaque will be added soon.  Many thanks to Janet Lohr, Mileva Lewis and Betty Carmack who made it all possible. Also, we added plants at the Little Red Hen garden thanks to Charlie Mader. 
Please join us! Question?  Contact Deacon Margaret (

Natalie Lloyd
A memorial/celebration of life service will take place on December 4 at 2:30 pm at St. Aidan's.

Music on the Hill: Sunday, December 4, 2022 at 7:30 PM: The Town Quartet with guest composer/ violinist Alisa Rose
Please join us for our Second Concert of the Season.
  • Ilana Thomas & Michèle  Walther, violins
  • Jacob Hansen-Joseph, viola
  • Lewis Patzner, cello
  • Alisa Rose, guest violin/composer
The program includes Embracing Roots by Bay Area composer Alisa Rose, Inverno Porteno  and Four For Tango by Astor Piazzolla, Quartet #3; Sostenuto - Like a Folk Tune by Erich Korngold, and La Follia by Corelli. 
Tickets will be sold online for $20 each. To purchase tickets for this Town Quartet concert click here:
Individual tickets and season tickets can also be purchased at the door. 

Wrestling with the Scriptures (via Zoom), Tuesday, December 6 at 10:30 AM

Our monthly Zoom bible study, "Wrestling with the Scriptures" is coming up this Tuesday, December 6th at 10:30 AM. This month Betty Carmack will be leading us in a conversation about 1 Corinthians 15: 35-56, with a tie in to John 14: 2-7. We look forward to the conversation-- please join us!   

Men's Group - Saturday, December 10, 9-10:30 am, via Zoom. 
We will connect for prayer, study and fellowship.  All men are cordially invited.  If you haven’t received connection information by December 8, contact Dave Frangquist (  Please note that the Men’s Group has switched to the second Saturday of the month this year.

Our St. Aidan's Women's Spirituality Group will meet via zoom Saturday, December 10th, at 10:30. As before, we will have time for both checking in and personal sharing as well as time for spiritual growth.  We are certainly open to  formats and approaches such as reflections on a poem, scripture,  narrative passage or another focus for our growth. We want our group to meet the needs and desires of those who participate.   If you want to join us, and we hope you will, please contact Elaine Mannon at elaine@mannon. com to get the information for signing into our meeting.

New Habitat for Humanity Date – Saturday Dec. 17, 8:30 – 4:00 pm
We have a new Habitat date at the Amber Drive site in Diamond Heights – we’ve had a great time each Saturday we’ve participated and all are welcome – there’s a job for everyone!  Contact Deacon Margaret ( or 650-619-0781) if you would like to sign up - she will inform you about the Habitat on-line sign up process

Next New Jim Crow Anti-Racist book group meeting - January 8, 4 pm
We’re reading Her Honor by LaDoris Cordell.  All are welcome – please contact Deacon Margaret for the Zoom link.  (

St. Aidan’s Gourmet Book Group - Next Date:  Monday, January 30, 2023, 7pm
We will continue to meet via zoom with LeeAnn DeSalles serving as our zoom master. She has set up a zoom link that will serve for all our meetings. If you would like help with zoom, please contact LeeAnn at If you would like to join the Book Group, please contact

DECEMBER:  We are taking a break this month from our regular zoom meeting and wish you all a joyous holiday season!
  • Monday, January 30, 2023 7:00 – 9:00 p.m.
    • Pale Rider by Laura Spinney  (352 pages) - a gripping narrative history of the Spanish Flu of 1918-1920  which exacted a death toll between 50 -100 million people and exists in our memory as an afterthought to World War I.  Spinney traces how the virus traveled across the globe, disrupted global politics, race relations, family structures and  created a lost generation.

Financial Summary:  For the period January thru October 2022, total operating income was $215,769 and total expenses were $236,137, for a budget deficit of $20,368.  Pledge payments totaled $144,706 compared to a budget of $148,770, for a shortfall of $4,064.  There was a net operating loss for the period of $124,846 after including year-to-date declines in market value of investments.  The endowment fund had lost $56,377 in value for the year.  Although investment losses are significant, they are mainly paper losses so far, and do not become real until we need to sell investments.  Keeping pledge payments up to date helps us avoid selling investments at a loss.

Resources for Engaging in Anti-Racism, from Elena Wong
Thank you to Elena Wong for sharing this list of resources that were in turn shared with her through her membership in the Western Association for College Counseling:

Please send in your recipes for the COVID Connect Cookbook!
As shared in previous weeks, Peter Fairfield and Linnea Sweet are putting together the COVID Connect Cookbook. He's received several recipes thus far but would very much like more. He writes:

We are living through a time that will change our world in ways that we cannot yet begin to understand. We can hope that our shared vulnerability to this virus worldwide will help us see that all humanity is connected and that we must all work together. As we shelter in place, many of us are concerned with food. If we are not working, how will we afford it? If we cannot go out, how will we get it?

In our community of Saint Aidan’s, many are able to feed themselves and to help others get fed. More than that, we appreciate the food that we get and are finding new ways of making the sharing of food as enjoyable as possible.

The soup recipes that Cameron has been sharing have made our diet much more enjoyable and have given Linnea and I the inspiration to collect recipes from all the congregation and share them. We ask that everyone with a favorite recipe email it to us at We will collect and edit them into a cookbook which will be a lasting reminder of this strange and special time in all our lives.

We hope to be able to publish this cookbook in printed form and sell it to raise funds in support of Saint Aidan’s food ministries. We know you have been sharing food. Now please share your recipes!

Contemplative Prayer continues: Tuesday, Thursday, & Saturday from 9-10 AM via Zoom
Contemplative prayer continues during this time of sheltering in place, via Zoom. Contemplative Prayer is silent with the beginning and ending marked by a bell. You can practice meditation, silent prayer, journal, or otherwise enjoy the collective quiet. Thank you to Susan Spencer for offering to anchor this practice once again, especially the Saturday, during this time. Please feel free to reach out to the office for the Zoom access information:

Morning Prayer continues: Mon, Wed, Fri at 7:30 AM via Zoom
We also continue to have Morning Prayer to help sustain and ground us, online/over the phone!  Please feel free to reach out to the office for the Zoom access information:

Evening Prayer resumes: Wednesdays at 6:30 PM via Zoom
Our in-coming CDSP Seminarian Weston Morris has resumed the service. Evening Prayer usually lasts a half hour. Readings for the day often feature commemorations from the Episcopal Church’s calendar of saints, and the service includes a brief reflection time on the readings. Please feel free to reach out to the office for the Zoom access information:

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St. Aidan's Vestry
Elena Wong, Senior Warden
Nicole Miller, Junior Warden
Dave Frangquist, Clerk & Treasurer 
Christine Powell, Anne Edwards,
Michael Jennings, Jim Oerther  
           Anne Benninger, Kate Fritz, Elaina LeGault          
Advent V
December 4, 2022

8AM Communion (Hybrid)
The Rev. Cameron Partridge, Presider
The Rev. Margaret Dyer-Chamberlain, Deacon & Preacher
Doris Weyl Feyling, Altar Guild

10 AM Communion (Hybrid)
The Rev. Cameron Partridge, Presider
The Rev. Margaret Dyer-Chamberlain, Deacon & Preacher
David Austin, Guest Music Minister
Anne Benninger, Lee Hammack, Michael Jennings, Jackie Lewey, Janet Lohr, Jim Oerther, Kateri Paul, George Slaiman, Barbara Stevenson, Jill Tollefson, & Rolf Tollefson, and perhaps you!, Choir
Dave Frangquist, In-Person Greeter
JoEllenBrothers, Zoom Greeter
Kateri Paul / David Mealy, Lectors
Margaret Tait, Intercessor
Janice Tichner-Leonard, Altar Guild
Nicole Miller, Sound/Liturgical DJ
Elena Wong, Bread Baker
CoCo Lin, Child Care

Calendar for the week starting Friday, December 2, 2022
December 2
December 3
December 4

December 5
December 6
December 7
December 8
Morning Prayer (via Zoom), 7:30 AM
Food Pantry, 1 PM
Contemplative Prayer (via Zoom), 9 AM
Holy Eucharist (Hybrid), 8 & 10 AM
Natalie Lloyd Memorial Service, 2:30 PM
Music on the Hill, The Town Quartet with guest composer/violinist Alisa Rose, 7:30 PM
Morning Prayer (via Zoom), 7:30 AM
Contemplative Prayer (via Zoom), 9 AM
Wrestling with the Scriptures Group, 10:30 AM
Morning Prayer (via Zoom), 7:30 AM
Diamond Diners To-Go, 12 PM
Evening Prayer (via Zoom), 6:30 PM
Contemplative Prayer (via Zoom), 9 AM
Kaffeeklatsch (via Zoom), 3 PM
Our Prayers 
In Your Prayers, Please Remember:

In deep acknowledgment that St. Aidan’s is located within the unceded, ancestral land of the Yelamu tribe of the Ramaytush Ohlone people who have lived in vital relationship with this holy place for thousands of years.

In the Episcopal Church: Pray for Michael our Presiding Bishop; Marc our Bishop; the clergy of the Diocese; our Rector Cameron; our assisting priests Don and Gary; our Deacons Margaret, and Mark; our Music Minister Barry; our Guest Music Minister David; our seminarian Weston; our postulant Lisa; our Childcare Provider CoCo.

In the Anglican Cycle of Prayer: Pray for The Episcopal Church in Jerusalem & The Middle East.

In the Diocesan Cycle of Prayer: Pray for St. Clement's, Berkeley; St. Ambrose, Foster City.

In our Parish Cycle of Prayer: Pray for The Pastoral Care Committee.
For those with birthdays this coming week:  Susan, Nicole, Nicolas, David, Darren, Ellis, Christopher.

For all striving for mental and emotional balance and wholeness, and for their families and friends.
For those who have asked for our prayers:
Barry K., Dawn, Elaina L., George J., Margaret T., Michael & Elaine J., Patrick M.,
For the ongoing work against intersecting forms of oppression, particularly racism; and in affirmation of human dignity;

For our work in the world: Habitat for Humanity on Amber Drive, the Friday Food Pantry, Diamond Diners.
For Oscar Grant, Trayvon Martin, Michael Brown, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, Rayshard Brooks, Elijah McClain, Walter Wallace, Adam Toledo, Daunte Wright, and all whose lives have borne deep witness that Black Lives Matter, and that systemic racism, white supremacy, and police brutality must be eradicated.
For our congregation as we embrace our call to be a sanctuary people, may we commit ourselves to prayer, education, and practices of sanctuary to support immigrants to this country and all people who are estranged, excluded, or threatened in 21st century America.
For all who are struggling in this time of pandemic, vulnerability, intensified injustice and division; for strength, support, and community across physical distances and for deepened engagement and commitment to our common life;

 For those who have recently died: Ann Schembari, Jean Amos, Marjorie Wilkins Jones, John Morrow, Natalie Lloyd, Sabra Sones, Eleanor Elliott, Joseph Potenti, Ellie McCarthy, Christine Ortiz.

Names of the living are printed by first name only unless otherwise requested. 
Living prayer request names will be kept on the prayer list for four weeks;
to keep someone on the list for longer, please notify the office.
To place a name on our prayer list, please contact the church office
 415-285-9540, ext. 3 or 

Advent V
Isaiah 11:1-10
Psalm 72:1-7, 18-19
Romans 15:4-13
Matthew 3:1-12

Website and Staff Email Addresses
Our website address is
The email address to reach Cameron, the Rector, is
The email to reach Cary, the Parish Administrator, is
The  email to reach Barry, the Music Minister, is
The email to reach Dave, the Treasurer, is
Our mailing address is:
101 Gold Mine Drive 
San Francisco, CA 94131

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