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[ID: A graphic with a male antechinus sitting in the forest. There is text on the graphic that reads, “Animals, Whaaa?! 1: Antechinus fuck themsevles to death, please don’t. The male antechinus a small marsupial in Australia) goes from being a virgin to mating upwards of 14 non-stop hours with as many females as possible, until he internally bleeds himself to death. The antechinus are a rare semelparous mammal, meaning they have a once-in-a lifetime affair or suicidal reproductive behavior. @heal2end. Source: The National Geographic.”]

Welcome to #NotForSocialMedia newsletter, where we leave no rock unturned when it comes to talking truth about sexuality and healing.

We call this newsletter, #NotForSocialMedia, because of the challenges of doing our work on social media. From trolls to anti-sex censorship algorithms, we had just about enough before deciding to migrate away from social media

Did you know even #SexEducation is banned on Instagram? Like other sex educators, we are tired of having to work around this frustrating and oppressive system. Instead, this is our new haven for voicing our unfiltered thoughts; a place where we can spell out words like Sex, Pleasure, Fuck, Kink, and Sexual Healing without fearing silencing by social media ghouls. 

We will always start with sex facts from the animal kingdom. You may wonder, "what do animal sex facts have to do with healing the wounds of sexual oppression?" We're glad you asked. Much of our assumptions about "normal human sexual behavior" has been constructed over pseudo-scientific ideas about how nature works. This is an odd inclination that leads some to say awful shit like "patriarchy/rape is natural" or "females of all species like to be submissive." 

Wildlife biologists know that sexual behavior is extremely diverse, to the point that there is a parallel for almost every sex act we may consider unnatural (or whatever the fuck that word ever meant). Plus, animals are cute!..well, most of them.  
Curious about what else is here? Scroll away and join us on this journey =)

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Connection skills are pivotal in RASHIM, aka our very own sexual healing model. They include things like accountability, intuition, compassion, and boundary-setting. 

Admitting mistakes is an essential step for accountability. Mistakes are often unintentional, yet they may still hurt someone. It is only after admitting to a mistake that you can try to make a genuine apology. Our beloved colleague, Mia Mingus does a wonderful job explaining how to give a genuine apology.

Saying we were wrong may feel like a sting to our ego, but as we say at The HEAL Project, everyone harms and everyone is harmed. Knowing this to be true, acknowledging our imperfections is allowing ourselves to be accountable. 
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Ready for a showcase of our creativity and humor? Coz we got MEMES for ya! 

A lot of the time reclamation of desire is shown as a neat package with a perfect bow. However, in reality, it isn't easy. There is much to unpack and triggers come up left and right. This is exactly why we advocate for community support, so that nobody has to journey alone
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What's that thing when you are surviving trauma knowing you'll never be the same, but also you take pride in who you are becoming? Well, we call it Healing.

Healing comes through many modalities, from therapy to kink to mindfulness. Healing is often sold as a destination, where one can leave the trauma behind and move on. As we understand healing, it is not about burying the traumatic experience in the deepest parts of our mind. Rather, it is about allowing trauma to exist as part of what makes us whole. 

Note: healing is rarely a quick process, it often takes a lifetime and that's OK.
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